tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557928558578780512.post1655299319877459974..comments2023-10-24T01:00:32.845-07:00Comments on ADVENTURES IN MOTHERHOOD: Sometimes I'm not a very good mommyLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07604477175816651214noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557928558578780512.post-63706856344201984602009-05-02T20:35:00.000-07:002009-05-02T20:35:00.000-07:00You could try pulling her hair back so that she ca...You could try pulling her hair back so that she cannot play with it and making her wear gloves. You could also teach her how to do something else with her hands, such as knitting. She is old enough! When I was little I used to bite my nails, and the thing that worked for me was doing other things with my hands (I was taught how to knit and now am an avid knitter) during the day and wearing gloves to bed at night. You are not a terrible mother - it's just that you are human and can't do everything you might want to acheive.Katynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557928558578780512.post-58616538874204338892008-12-14T11:05:00.000-08:002008-12-14T11:05:00.000-08:00your post made me think about my own relationship ...your post made me think about my own relationship with my mother. i used to do the hair twirling thing, and my mom took the anfry route with me. honestly, sometimes i did do it just to piss her off (one i realized it did), but i did eventually stop. <BR/><BR/>you are an awesome mom. there will be angry, annoyed, irritating times as i'm sure you know...but your kids know you love them!<BR/><BR/>on a side note: a friend of mine has a 3 yo who pulls her hair out (to baldness actually), and they found it was due to stress. maybe something's bugging her...???Leigh Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13594622474522642702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557928558578780512.post-86075860393652275432008-12-14T04:33:00.000-08:002008-12-14T04:33:00.000-08:00I think we all have things our kids do that we can...I think we all have things our kids do that we can't stand.<BR/><BR/>The thing your daughter is doing... I don't think your reaction is a selfish one. Her behavior is impacting her negatively (deformed nails, bumpy skin, pulling out hair).<BR/><BR/>I'd be upset, too.<BR/><BR/>And I'd probably try the angry thing, too.<BR/><BR/>I guess she has to choose to stop so you have to find ways to bribe... er, I mean, encourage... her to stop on her own. Help her find another comfort object.<BR/><BR/>Don't beat yourself up so much!! Would you talk this way to your closest friend?Eternal Lizdomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12436844959718198383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557928558578780512.post-30003932434094703512008-12-14T04:07:00.000-08:002008-12-14T04:07:00.000-08:00Oh, Lisa, big big big big big hugs. I could have ...Oh, Lisa, big big big big big hugs. I could have written your post, not because of the specific circumstances but because of the "I suck" comment. You cannot do everything right everything single time and there is no right way of doing things. Sometimes you will be more frustrated than other times and other times you will have the patience of a saint! You are aware, you are human, you are trying...those things alone are a huge gift to your children. There are many parents out there who never think about their parenting or their reactions to their kids and those are the children who are truly emotionally harmed. Each day is a new one and you are a bright, searching, wonderfully mommy who will keep looking at ways to be better at it every day, whatever that better is based on your energy and patience level. You know these things already, Lisa, but you just need to hear them more often. Hugs again.Carlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05984557067655141677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557928558578780512.post-8414743518011551992008-12-13T23:10:00.000-08:002008-12-13T23:10:00.000-08:00You are to a good mom! We all have our things that...You are to a good mom! We all have our things that drive us nuts with our kids. Certain things drives us crazy we get mad and then we feel guilty that we didn't do it a different way. Just keep talking to her about it, make her aware that shes doing it. For her it is all subconcious and habitual. For us its frustrating, but I think the more you bring it to her attention by talking about it, the older she gets, she will become more conscious of it and learn not to do it.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12683986791925152454noreply@blogger.com